A chapter, an era and a phase of merriment, playfulness, innocence ends only to start a new journey of responsibilities, love, trust and hope.
Every girl has to sail through this voyage but that era is never forgotten and remain etched out beautifully in your heart, forever.
I dedicate this small piece of my writing to all of you women out there, we do shed a sea of emotions during our “Bidai/Rukhsati” (Farewell) as we call it but rarely we vocalize. Here I have tried to attempt the same, for the first time. Hope you find it relatable with your own experiences.
Holding me in your arms for the first time
To giving me off to someone and sublime
Why is this mandatory, I wonder
To cleave your heart and surrender
Silent tears of departure started flowing by
Since the day you engaged me to this unknown guy
How will I live without you and survive
Oh you my mother, how will I even thrive
Myriads of memoirs I have in every nook and corner of this home
One day, I will fill a thousand pages and create a tome
Who would wake me up yelling every morning
Who would tolerate my unnecessary wittering
Looking at the faces of my siblings
Oh without you, how would I be anything
To be a constant woodpecker and annoying
How will I be nudging and enjoying
A day before my wedding farewell
A tsunami generated within my shell
When you, my mother, wrapped your arms around me and cried inaudibly
Pretending to be asleep, I was choked and encumbered in melancholy
Escorting me to my palanquin
And bidding me adieu like a queen
Leaving behind a vast past untold
I embarked on a journey to unfold.
Thank you so very much for your time for reading and going through my posts π. If you happen to like my blog postings, please do follow and motivate me to meander my thoughts even more.
126 replies on “Silent Valediction”
Beautiful and heartfelt post, Samreen. Every word strikes the right chord.
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Thanks so very much Ramya for your time and appreciation. Means a lotβ€οΈπ
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Absolutely true.
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Thank youπ
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Thank you π
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Your welcome π
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πππ Marvellous ,Kudos to your talent sister
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Thanks so much bhaijan β€οΈ
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Nothing else but stupendous !!
Exceptional capture of the feelings and emotions a woman goes through during the first step of transformation from a daughter, an apple of her parents’ eyes, to a wife and daughter-in-law, a new entrant in an almost unknown world.
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Thank you so much bhaijan β€οΈ
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Emotional moments.. beautifully captured…
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Thanks so much bhabhiπβ€οΈ
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Great post β€οΈ
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Thank you so much β€οΈπ
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So beautiful Samreen. I am not a girl but can so relate to it.
I and my wife were always very fond of girls (i have only one son) but I always thought : It would have been so difficult for me to give away my daughter π
I still ended up giving away 3 girls in marriage. Daughters are such a blessing
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Thank you so much for your time reading itπ Means a lot.
Yeah, it is much more difficult for a parent as it is a for a daughter, I guess. I remember my father also thinking the same as you thought, when I was small and telling my mother that how he would give me off someday. It’s just that he was no more to see that.
Your 3 girls as in your sisters or? Just curious to know π
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Oh oh Samreen: it is so sad that he wasnβt around for you. But am sure he is watching over you even now π
Two of the three are my sisterβs daughters and both have long stories behind them π
The third was an auntieβs friends grand daughter – whom I had supported to educate.
Now I have so many children calling me nanu – even of other girls whom I didnβt marry off but was close to ππ
I so hope that you keep unlocking the Hidden You / I am sure it is so beautiful π
Love and blessings
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You are a wonderful human being and I can surely say that reading your beautiful thoughts depicted through your writings.
MashaAllah you are blessed with beautiful people in your life.
May The Almighty bless you much much more.
And thank you so so much for your wishes. Am obliged. ππ
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I am just your reflection Samreen. Thank you so much for your kind and warm wordsππ€
God has always been very kind to me and keeps sending so many loving souls in my life π
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Anytime, my pleasure. πKeep spreading love, kindness and compassion as you are doing.
Wishing happiness and health for you. Take care π
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Beautiful writing on valediction. Very touchy and emotional feelings after reading this.
This is the reality of every bride when she leave all her memories of childhood till her Bidai but at the same time she is so happy & hopeful about her new life with different atmosphere with different people and her everlasting bonding of life partner.
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Yes it is.. πThank you so much. Means a lot to me β€οΈπ
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Your writing taste has been amazed me
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Thank you so much for your kind appreciation. Means a lot π
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such a heart felt blog.You literally brought the emotions out. I have done one on a similar topic called deja vu.
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Thanks so very much for time and appreciation. π Would love to read yours too.. π
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touching blog…
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Thanks so much for the time you took reading and commenting π
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Well written! The feelings about leaving family when you marry are much the same when you know your mate beforehand! It is still a farewell, and embarkment upon an new life as a new and separate person / family! You penned it well! Keep writing! Blessings!
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Thanks so very much for your time and kind words. π Means a lot
Good luck and wishes to you too π
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You’re Most Welcome! My Pleasure! Have a Blessed Day!
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Thanks again π To you too!! π
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Ma sha Allah.Touched deeplyβ€
Well penned every single lineπ―
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I am humbled.. βΊοΈThank you so much for finding it worth reading ππ
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Ma sha Allah. keep it upβ€ Pleasure is all mineπ
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JazakAllah khairπ₯°
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Wow! This is a beautiful piece, Samreen! I’d love to read more of your poems! π
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Thank you so much Maria for your appreciation and comment. Means a lot ππ
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Beautiful!! Touched!!
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Thanks so very much for your comment and kind wordsπ
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This is so beautiful.β€οΈ It breaks my heart that I too have to leave my home someday.
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Thanks so much π yeah dear, daughters have to.. One day.. β€οΈ
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I would like to invite you to follow my blog, thank you so much and I wish you much success πΉπI enjoyed your article very much π
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Thanks so very much for the follow and your appreciation. Means a lot ππ Followed. π
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Thank you so much for your kindness, it means a lot to me too β€οΈβ€οΈβ€οΈβ€οΈπ€π»πΉ
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Pleasureπ€
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so true. I can identify with this. Although we don’t have outward displays of affection in my household, I can relate to everything you have written. The emotions of the parents and the daughter are well-depicted.
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Thanks so much for reading and relating to it. Means a lotπ
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Samreen, you brought back the memories. Heart touching words – Beautifully, heartfully penned! Love it.
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Thank you so so much Smithaβ€οΈ Glad you related. π€
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OΓΉ tout ne tient que de rien
ne rien retenir d’autre qu’entrer libre pour l’esprit…
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Indeed one should not have any burden in mind, it should be free but emotions and memoirs, they do remain for entire lifetime. πThanks so very much Niala for your time you took to comment. π
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Beautiful.
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Thank you so much Shikha for your time. Happy you liked itπ
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A very thoughtful and emotional post.
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Thank you so much for going through it and for your kind words. ππ
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My pleasure π
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This is so beautiful. I am so happy our paths crossed, I’m enjoying your blog. π
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Thanks so much dear for your kind words π€β€οΈ It’s really my pleasure to connect with you.. Am too happyπ
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Thank you! Your blog is really amazing! π
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Pleasure dear π€ Am humbled really.. so is yours π
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No problem! Thank you!! It means so much. πβ€
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Beautifully expressed…
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Thanks so much for your time and comment π
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https://krishmotivationalblogs.com/
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Ok. Actually your website name is different when you like or comment. You need to change that. It’s showing krishthehrguide. Same happened with me also earlier.
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Indeed a true heartfelt post which every girl’s heart secretly screams as a question! I’m speechless it’s amazing samreen\β₯ β₯
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Thank you so very much Harini for your time reading, relating and commenting.. π€ Means a tonβ€οΈβ€οΈ
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Thanks for checking out my blog recently!
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Pleasure.. Thanks so very much to you tooπ take care! π
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Lovely write up dost ! Beautifully expressed thoughts of a new bride. Enjoyed reading your post π€π
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Thanks so so much Nabeela for your constant support and wishes. Means a lot to me β€οΈπ€β€οΈ
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So nicely written
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Thanks so much Denise π€π
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Great poetry.
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Thank you so much for your timeπ
Happy you liked itπ
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Oh Samreen, your post captured so perfectly the anxiety of a woman about to leave her family to become a wife and daughter-in-law. I remember so vividly the butterflies in my stomach the night before my wedding. Even though Bob & I had known each other three and a half years before we married, it was like marrying a stranger because we had been apart from one another most of that time, and we had not seen each other for six months prior to the wedding (he was in the army and stationed in Germany). I was leaving everything familiar (my home, my family, my job, my country, my language) and going off to be with him in a strange land. So you can imagine how your sentiments in this poem resonated with me. You have expressed them beautifully – and I love the pictures. Thank you for visiting JanBeek and leaving your calling card so I could find you. I am going to enjoy perusing your site!
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Thanks so so much for your time reading my posts and kind comment. I am happy that my writing touched you in any which way. You have described every bit of feeling which was mine at that time.
Thanks so much for sharing with me. β€οΈπ
So happy to connect with you JanBeek. ππ€
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I can’t begin to imagine such a journey … good luck to all those who experience it!
Nice to meet you Samreen π
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Thanks so much for your comment and wishes dear. Means a lotππ
Nice to meet you too Kateπ€
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take care … is it a happy marriage?
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Very much Indeed dear..ππ Very lucky to have been blessed with a wonderful husbandβ€οΈ
You too take care my dear.. Happy to connect with youππ
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so very very pleased for both of you .. arranged marriages often seem to work better than love one π
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Thanks so much Kate π€β€οΈ
I think it’s not about arranged or love, its about how the very person is, that matters the most and and then, how better you both bead up your life. πβ€οΈ
Are you married??
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no … been too busy for that and seldom met genuinely happy couples but not for lack of proposals π
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Oh that’s good then enjoy your life as a single until you get to enjoy with your life partner as a couple.. ππ
Wishes and luck ππ
Stay safe!
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thanks so much!
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You are most welcome π
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You described it so vividly…. It was absolutely heartfeltπππΌ
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Thanks so very much for your time and kind wordsπ Means a lotπ
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How beautifully written. Captures all the turmoil and emotionsπ
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Thanks so much, happy you liked itππ
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I did indeed.π€
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Thank you for your beautiful words ππ»π
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Thank you so much for your time and kind comment. Happy day ahead!! π
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Samreen, thank you for sharing these experiences. I cannot imagine entering into an arranged marriage, but I know quite a few who had arranged marriages. I taught as a secular teacher in an Islamic school for four years. Most of the families I knew were very happy and both parents were very involved with their children. I wish you and your husband many happy years together. β€ All the best! Cheryl
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Thank you so much for your message Cheryl and sharing your kind thoughts and experience. Though it really is difficult initially but as a little time passes and if you are lucky to have a wonderful husband, arranged marriages do work wonders.π
Thanks again so much for your blessings, really means a lotβ€οΈβ€οΈπ€
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I hope that one day everyone will be free to marry the person they love.
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Yeah but times do have changed and will change more , love marriages are very common these days. π Thank you so much for your time reading and commenting πHappy weekend!!
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Wow, Samreen, that is one of the most beautiful poems I’ve read in a long time. Thank you so much for sharing. Be well. π
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Oh that really means a lot to me and am obliged truly. Thanks so so much for your kind appreciation and taking out your time to go through my work. π
Thanks again.
Have a good day πΊπ
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Welcome, Samreen. You also have a wonderful day. π
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Thanks so much ππΈ
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Beautifully and movingly expressed the pain of deparcher,
Joanna
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Thank you so much Joanna for taking out your time and going through my post. Really appreciate your kind comment. πβ€οΈπ€
Take care!!
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Awesome
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Thank you so so much Denise for your time and comment π€β€οΈ
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wow
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Thank you so much Denise πβ€οΈ
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Heart touching
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Thanks so much dear Sakina for your comment. πΊπ€
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Every word is trueπ€©
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Thank you so much dear for your time reading and commenting and happy you resonated π€ take care and a good day to you πΊπ
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This paragraph gives clear idea in favor of the new people of blogging,
that really how to do blogging and site-building.
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Thank you for writinng this
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Thank you so much for taking your time to read this.. π Good day!!
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