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Silent Valediction

A chapter, an era and a phase of merriment, playfulness, innocence ends only to start a new journey of responsibilities, love, trust and hope.

Every girl has to sail through this voyage but that era is never forgotten and remain etched out beautifully in your heart, forever.

I dedicate this small piece of my writing to all of you women out there, we do shed a sea of emotions during our “Bidai/Rukhsati” (Farewell) as we call it but rarely we vocalize. Here I have tried to attempt the same, for the first time. Hope you find it relatable with your own experiences.

Holding me in your arms for the first time

To giving me off to someone and sublime

Why is this mandatory, I wonder

To cleave your heart and surrender

Silent tears of departure started flowing by

Since the day you engaged me to this unknown guy

How will I live without you and survive

Oh you my mother, how will I even thrive

Myriads of memoirs I have in every nook and corner of this home

One day, I will fill a thousand pages and create a tome

Who would wake me up yelling every morning

Who would tolerate my unnecessary wittering

Looking at the faces of my siblings

Oh without you, how would I be anything

To be a constant woodpecker and annoying

How will I be nudging and enjoying

A day before my wedding farewell

A tsunami generated within my shell

When you, my mother, wrapped your arms around me and cried inaudibly

Pretending to be asleep, I was choked and encumbered in melancholy

Escorting me to my palanquin

And bidding me adieu like a queen

Leaving behind a vast past untold

I embarked on a journey to unfold.

Thank you so very much for your time for reading and going through my posts 😊. If you happen to like my blog postings, please do follow and motivate me to meander my thoughts even more.

126 replies on “Silent Valediction”

Nothing else but stupendous !!
Exceptional capture of the feelings and emotions a woman goes through during the first step of transformation from a daughter, an apple of her parents’ eyes, to a wife and daughter-in-law, a new entrant in an almost unknown world.

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So beautiful Samreen. I am not a girl but can so relate to it.
I and my wife were always very fond of girls (i have only one son) but I always thought : It would have been so difficult for me to give away my daughter πŸ’•

I still ended up giving away 3 girls in marriage. Daughters are such a blessing

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Thank you so much for your time reading itπŸ™‚ Means a lot.
Yeah, it is much more difficult for a parent as it is a for a daughter, I guess. I remember my father also thinking the same as you thought, when I was small and telling my mother that how he would give me off someday. It’s just that he was no more to see that.
Your 3 girls as in your sisters or? Just curious to know πŸ™‚

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Oh oh Samreen: it is so sad that he wasn’t around for you. But am sure he is watching over you even now πŸ’–

Two of the three are my sister’s daughters and both have long stories behind them πŸ˜…
The third was an auntie’s friends grand daughter – whom I had supported to educate.

Now I have so many children calling me nanu – even of other girls whom I didn’t marry off but was close to πŸ˜ŠπŸ’–

I so hope that you keep unlocking the Hidden You / I am sure it is so beautiful 😍

Love and blessings

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You are a wonderful human being and I can surely say that reading your beautiful thoughts depicted through your writings.
MashaAllah you are blessed with beautiful people in your life.
May The Almighty bless you much much more.
And thank you so so much for your wishes. Am obliged. πŸ™‚πŸ˜‡

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I am just your reflection Samreen. Thank you so much for your kind and warm wordsπŸ˜ŠπŸ€—

God has always been very kind to me and keeps sending so many loving souls in my life πŸ™

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Beautiful writing on valediction. Very touchy and emotional feelings after reading this.
This is the reality of every bride when she leave all her memories of childhood till her Bidai but at the same time she is so happy & hopeful about her new life with different atmosphere with different people and her everlasting bonding of life partner.

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Well written! The feelings about leaving family when you marry are much the same when you know your mate beforehand! It is still a farewell, and embarkment upon an new life as a new and separate person / family! You penned it well! Keep writing! Blessings!

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Oh Samreen, your post captured so perfectly the anxiety of a woman about to leave her family to become a wife and daughter-in-law. I remember so vividly the butterflies in my stomach the night before my wedding. Even though Bob & I had known each other three and a half years before we married, it was like marrying a stranger because we had been apart from one another most of that time, and we had not seen each other for six months prior to the wedding (he was in the army and stationed in Germany). I was leaving everything familiar (my home, my family, my job, my country, my language) and going off to be with him in a strange land. So you can imagine how your sentiments in this poem resonated with me. You have expressed them beautifully – and I love the pictures. Thank you for visiting JanBeek and leaving your calling card so I could find you. I am going to enjoy perusing your site!

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Thanks so so much for your time reading my posts and kind comment. I am happy that my writing touched you in any which way. You have described every bit of feeling which was mine at that time.
Thanks so much for sharing with me. ❀️😊
So happy to connect with you JanBeek. πŸ’–πŸ€—

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Thanks so much Kate πŸ€—β€οΈ
I think it’s not about arranged or love, its about how the very person is, that matters the most and and then, how better you both bead up your life. 😊❀️
Are you married??

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Samreen, thank you for sharing these experiences. I cannot imagine entering into an arranged marriage, but I know quite a few who had arranged marriages. I taught as a secular teacher in an Islamic school for four years. Most of the families I knew were very happy and both parents were very involved with their children. I wish you and your husband many happy years together. ❀ All the best! Cheryl

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Thank you so much for your message Cheryl and sharing your kind thoughts and experience. Though it really is difficult initially but as a little time passes and if you are lucky to have a wonderful husband, arranged marriages do work wonders.😊
Thanks again so much for your blessings, really means a lotβ€οΈβ€οΈπŸ€—

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